Thomas S. Lupo

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Departed on January 25, 2018 and resided in St. Peters, MO

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Thomas S. Lupo of St. Charles, Missouri, passed away on Thursday, January 25, 2018 at the age of 68. Devoted husband of 46 years to Rita Lupo (NEE: Stroer); loving father of Lesa Ryan, Christine Morrow, Stephen Lupo, Sandra Wappelhorst; cherished grandfather of Alexander Hollingsworth, Vivian Morrow, and Grace Lupo; dearest brother of Bob Layton, Jack Layton, and Belinda Pitti, dedicated father-in law to David Ryan, Kimberly Lupo, and Nicholas Wappelhorst, and close family friends with the Koebbe family, the Greer family, the Parr family, Mary Czapla, and Matthew Paule. Thomas was preceded in death by his father, Samuel Lupo.

Thomas graduated from Riverview High School, worked at Sverdrup and Parcel and RW Booker as a draftsman, and joined the National Guard. During this time, he married the love of his life, Rita Stroer. Shortly after that, he decided on a career in law enforcement, graduated from the St. Louis Police Academy, and was hired as a Ferguson Police officer. Over time, he also worked at Hazelwood Police Department, St. Charles County Corrections, Wentzville Police Department as a canine officer, and then returned to St. Charles County Corrections where he became a supervisor and continued working until his passing. During Tom and Rita's 46 years together, they raised four fabulous children who then provided three phenomenal grandchildren.

Some of the things Tom liked to do: have game nights with family and friends, go on motorcycle rides, take trips to the mountains, fish, play darts, play softball, cook for Knights of Columbus fish fries, collect police collectibles, play with grandchildren, and go out to restaurants. He also built his own house and was very excited about building his spiral staircase and double-mantle two-story fireplace. During the course of his police career, he was involved in many police fiascos, and always had crazy stories to tell when he came home. He was once given a letter of commendation from Wentzville for saving a child's life, which is just one of his many heroic deeds. When called upon, he would always be there for family and friends as needed. His quirky sense of humor will be greatly missed.

Two memorial services will be held on Saturday, February 3, 2018 at Lakecrest Assembly of God Church, located at 1400 Corporate Parkway, Wentzville, Missouri 63385. The memorial will be from 1:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. with services at 1:30 and 4:00 p.m. In lieu of flowers, the family requests memorial contributions be made to Backstoppers (

Guestbook Entries

  1. Janet Borreson January 28, 2018 at 4:55 pm - Reply

    Prayers to your family, We will all be together again someday. You are missed

  2. Albert M Schultz Jr January 29, 2018 at 12:02 am - Reply

    Tom You were a true friend from the time I met you at Riverview. I think you were a little surprised to see me show up at St Charles but I’m glad we got back together as friends. Of all the supervisors I have had the occasion of work for in my 37 years in corrections, you were one of the best. An officer could sit and talk to you about things from proper running of the jail to woodworking or anything else. You are surely missed at SCCDOC because you cared about the officers that worked under you. God has an excellent co up there now

  3. Andrea Dill January 29, 2018 at 4:43 pm - Reply

    So sorry for your loss. He is so greatly missed at work. He was a great person and supervisor. Prayers to all of you.

  4. Kate Kleiber January 29, 2018 at 6:33 pm - Reply

    I am so sad to hear of Tom passsing. I will always think of the fun times Ben had playing video games with Tom before the other kids arrived. He would jump on Tom’s lap and Tom taught him how to play. So fun taking the kids to watch Tom work with his police dog. What a great role model Tom was for Ben.

  5. John Litz DSN January 29, 2018 at 7:49 pm - Reply

    Rita and family,
    It is never easy saying goodbye to a loved one, Tom will be greatly missed by all of us. Rest easy knowing that he is no longer in any pain or suffering. Tom was a tough guy, a fighter to the end, It was an honor getting to know and work with him the past 15 years, even though he is no longer physically here with us, his memories will live on with us all.

  6. Sandy Davison January 30, 2018 at 10:54 pm - Reply

    Rita and family–so sorry about your loss. Tom was a great guy and will be missed. You are all in our thoughts and prayers!
    The Davisons

  7. Pat McNeil January 31, 2018 at 8:21 am - Reply

    Sandy and Nick…So very sorry for your loss. Although I did not know your dad well, Sandy, I am certain he was a very special man to have raised such, a strong, competent, caring and resilient daughter. I know he was as proud of you as we are. 😘Love and prayers for you and your family.

  8. Beth Busken January 31, 2018 at 3:01 pm - Reply

    Rita & Family so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing, he was always 1 to get stories from. I knew Tom from the old neighborhood(he brought his german shepard into Belkin) and then from FPD & HZPD

  9. Tony OBrochta January 31, 2018 at 4:15 pm - Reply

    I am a Colleague of Steve’s at Siemens PLM. I just found out about your loss. Please accept my deepest Condolences and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I while back when I first worked with Steve I followed the recent addition to his family and the construction on his property. Steve spoke so highly of Tom, his knowledge and abilities. Know words can replace or soften what you all must be going thru. So, any attempt on my part to do so would be wrong. I can only attempt the extension of myself and offer any assistance I can provide. As I always tell Steve “Hang In There”.

  10. Bob (Mary Czapla) Layton January 31, 2018 at 4:36 pm - Reply

    Dear Rita, children and grandchildren.
    Tommy will be sorely missed by Bob and me. We both considered him a big brother and to Bob, Tommy was his best friend. We cherish the memories of our trips to the Smoky Mountains and Yellowstone. Bob has the memories of some really great fishing trips. We are here for you at anytime you may need us.
    Love and prayers to all.

  11. Jack Layton January 31, 2018 at 8:23 pm - Reply

    The Lupo Family,
    Sally and I want to send our condolences. Finding my long lost brother so late in life, is a gift that I will always cherish. I am so grateful for the time we spend together. Your family and ours will always be united thanks to him. Tommy will be missed in so many ways. Our hearts go out to all of you.

  12. Karen Dagenhart January 31, 2018 at 9:04 pm - Reply

    To the Lupo Family, I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you guy’s.


  13. Dan & Barb Vallo February 1, 2018 at 3:11 pm - Reply

    We are deeply sadden to learn of Tom’s passing. Our deepest condolences to all who knew and loved Tom.

  14. Belinda Pitti February 2, 2018 at 5:30 am - Reply

    Dear Rita and Children,
    Words cannot express how Toms passing has effected me. He was a positive influence to me when I needed him and I will forever be proud to call him my brother, my hero. I am so blessed to have shared his last days hoping and praying by your side. Pat and I send our love and prayers tor you all at this most difficult time. His memory will live in us though the stories we tell, and the love we share for him..

  15. Judy Stroer February 2, 2018 at 8:39 am - Reply

    Rest In Peace dear brother-in-law, gone but not forgotten. Memories will live on in our hearts.

  16. Nancy Hahn February 2, 2018 at 2:10 pm - Reply

    Dear Rita and Family,
    We are so very sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers.
    Love, Nancy, Alan, Julie, Amy, and Andrew

  17. Roni Lynch February 3, 2018 at 8:30 am - Reply

    Lesa, my deepest condolences to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  18. Kacey Osmundson February 3, 2018 at 9:38 am - Reply

    Thinking of you and the family today. Sorry for your loss.

  19. Dawn Farmer February 3, 2018 at 10:52 am - Reply

    Think of you and your family Lesa.

  20. Kimberly Speidel February 3, 2018 at 11:07 am - Reply

    Rita and family, Uncle Tom will be missed. Wrestling with the tickle monster has become a great part of my family’s life. Trying to to beat Uncle Tom in wrestling became mission that Frank and the kids never accomplished. Wrestling has become a huge part of our lives and we thank Uncle Tom for his influence. Love and hugs!

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